But through the past few years of this deep inner work, I now know powerful thoughts and images that seem to appear from nowhere are the fear of that small and scared child inside me holding onto some feeling of comfort she thinks she needs. She has learned to use powerful thoughts and imagery to try and protect me, but I know what is behind those now. It’s my six-year-old self, trying to not become harmed in this world. I used to get quite angry with this part of myself, but I realized that is only becoming angry with another part of myself. A part that so badly needs to feel love, belonging and safety.

A Little Process for Growth

Growth is change and change causes discomfort but staying stagnant may cause even more pain even though it may feel like comfortable pain. It is a place we know, so we feel okay staying there even though it can be so incredibly painful. Finding ways to respond and work through the discomfort is imperative to growing and changing in ways we want to change or grow. I have noticed a pattern emerge when I’m working through new challenges or the discomfort of change and growth. It is a little process for growth consisting of Curiosity, Courage, and Compassion.

Using the Power of Questions to Improve Mental Wellness

Curiosity is a practice and can be used as a method for discovery over and over again. Keep asking positively framed and generative questions starting with What can I and How can I and eventually the answers you are seeking will find you.